Carrie Maldonado – Author

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Judginess [sic]

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Okay, yes, I know that’s not a real word, but I wanted to write somewhat lightly about this major character defect. I am currently writing a character (her name’s Annie, you’re going to love her, I hope), who is about to have her world rocked. You see, her whole life, Annie has played by the rules, tried to be good and has achieved a certain amount of life success because of this. It hasn’t been easy for her. She had a horror show of a childhood and her half-brother Max (you may remember Max from Broken Warriors) is a full blown alcoholic. Annie has escaped all that and has worked very hard her whole life to earn her place in decent society.
So what’s the problem? Well, for one, she’s very unhappy and doesn’t know why. As she spends more time with her brother, she is shocked to realize that without even knowing it, her perfectionism has morphed into a bad case of judgementalism. Ouch. Poor Annie – she doesn’t think she’s judgmental at first. She just think she knows how things ought to be, and has worked hard herself to meet those standards and just can’t understand why everyone doesn’t. The thing to realize about Annie is that she has a wonderful heart, and that she’s harder on herself than everyone else. But this is not to say she’s not hard on everyone else – just ask Max. This is going to be a tough one for Annie’s author, and yet Annie has really been wanting her story told so I guess it’s time to pull back these covers.
Judginess is a nasty defect to have to own. I think when we were told “Judge not lest ye be judged” there was another layer of meaning besides the obvious. I think that this is a description as well as a prognosis. When you have the habit of looking for what other people are doing wrong, it is usually because you do the same to yourself, creating what scientists refer to, scientifically, as ‘a bad scene’. It’s one of those defects that tries to act like it’s an asset – just trying to be the best you can be and help others to do the same, but that’s actually just a load of what scientists scientifically refer to as ‘crap’. It is my very good great pleasure to help Annie realize the pain she’s causing in herself and others and to hopefully cut that ‘stuff’ out! I will keep you posted from time to time on how she’s doing.

Picture by Jason Morrison, courtesy of freeimages.com

Picture by Jason Morrison, courtesy of freeimages.com

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Author: Carrie Maldonado

Carrie Maldonado, is an organizational development consultant, author, and speaker. Carrie's eclectic mix of professional interests include writing, speaking, coaching, and consulting on topics ranging from organizational behavior management to spiritual transformation in and out of the workplace. Carrie lives in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her patient and long-suffering husband and their three children.

3 thoughts on “Judginess [sic]

  1. I look forward to meeting Annie and watching her story unfold. So far she sounds like twin sister to the Prodigal Son’s older brother!

  2. hahahaha….funny how that works, eh?

  3. I’m also looking forward to reading about Annie, Carrie. And I completely agree with your assertion that people who are critical of “defects” in others probably have the same “defects” themselves. It’s complicated! But I wish Annie all the best in finding her way out of judginess!!

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